28 January 2010

Meltdowns

Two tantrums/melt downs this morning. That was the report on the the phone. Two bad, had to restrain her to keep her from hurting herself, the teachers, and the school property meltdowns. Two within an hour where Julia was out of control.

Completely.

No amount of mother guilt, or school expertise to help this.

Meds? Rigidity? Anxiousness? We are not seeing this at home.

And I am stymied.

2 comments:

Carol said...

Hi,

I read your blog all the time. I also have a daughter from China (5) with the same profile as Julia...although I wish Meileigh had Julia's language skills. Anyhow I feel for you and the tantrums. We deal with these things coming and going all the time, but Meileigh does not even have the language to talk about them. This week we are dealing with "goal noises". Out of the blue she makes this really loud noise like a screaming goat and then cries. Perhaps the approach of Chinese New Year brings out these behaviors :)?

Carol

Suz said...

Oh Carol, How I would love to get all these girls in the same therapy program, play group, learning group. . . . something! I wonder how much we could learn from each other. I wonder if there are things that would be clearer if we saw them together???

How long has your daughter been home been home? Is she in any school/care/ therapy programs?


And a funny story about noises -- Julia is naturally loud. Really loud. And so, we taught her soft, medium, and loud voice when she spoke. A teacher asked my why we did not use the term "indoor voice" and I had to explain that when Julia understood what "indoor" meant, she though that was a very loud voice. Of course, to be heard inside the orphanage, she probably used a very loud voice.

I do wonder how many little things like that rule our daughter's lives. I ache sometimes not knowing.