I woke up, this morning at 5 when Julia woke up, and clearly realized that I am just not slightly uncomfortable asking for the help that we will need when David's beeper goes off. I absolutely hate even the idea of planning for it. I am pretty sure that if I don't plan, Julia's life will get chaotic and that going this alone is not an option, but we don't have the natural support group -- family and long time friends -- here. Forcing myself to do this is in order. Uck!
Why is it so hard to ask for help?
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It IS hard to ask for help. I would feel the same way. But if you look at it from the other side of the equation, one of my friends says that she kind of likes it when people ask her for help because it implies a certain level of respect and relationship, and that makes her feel valued. So here's hoping that you have a lot of acquaintances like my friend! :-)
Suzanne,
What has to happen? Can Julia come to us? Can you find someone close until I can get there to get her? We will do whatever you need. So wish we were closer. Can not believe the news that David has a pager for something like this.
Our family has prayed for David every single day since I read this. I'm still so surprised, but we are here for you and will take your girl in a heart beat. I just don't know how I could come up there and stay with Scott working.
Let's do this.....if you can use me then call me and let's talk about it.
Love you!!!!!!
Traci & Family
Suzanne, you've got a lot of inroads in place by what you've already done. Try Julia's school first, to seek out families who would be willing to take Julia in an emergency. Network the PTO, teachers, etc. for leads. Perhaps buy Julia her own little sleeping bag/suitcase/stuffed animal to take with -- maybe one of those zip-up bags that can be used as a comforter on her bed so she can "bond" with it before it is needed --
Also seek out local groups for families of special-needs children, and determine a fair exchange for services provided . . .
Tips provided from my bygone days as a single parent of a special needs kid --
Love to you.
Sharyn
and Julia. Have just read the posts for the last couple of weeks and hope the medication works for Julia. Definitely worth trying.
Wish I could be there to help when David goes into hospital for his new heart. Guess it is a bit like preparing for the birth of a new baby : you never know when you will go into labour so you must be totally ready to have someone who can take over : someone Julia trusts.
Why can't you ask for help? I meet so many people like you and they are the world's givers.They are the rescuers, not the victims. I will leave you with something my Hassidic Uncle told me. The greatest mitzva you can do for another person is accept their gift of help. Allow others to give to you. I am sure there are people at your church who will help but you must start getting that support group organized right now, because Julia has to be comfortable with the people you choose or who choose you.
Go for it. Loved all the pictures of the brown bat with the carved pumpkins. And 250 bulbs for Spring? I've never planted bulbs for a Spring display. You've inspired me. Perhaps next year.
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