Julia had a melt down towards the end of her therapy session this morning. Ellen, her therapist, had painted her finger nails and then her toe nails. All of this was at Julia's request but she did have to sit quietly and very still for a long time. I am not sure why but she wanted her toe nail polish taken off and when Ellen tried to convince her to wait until it dried, Julia started getting upset. She melted like butter in the sun and was yelling, crying, and being generally disagreeable. Ellen put her on a step, and then when Julia calmed down a little bit, I took her in my arms. I held her for a long time and she started raging again, but once she stopped with all the anger, she started crying. Julia has not cried much in the last three years except as a result of anger. This started out as anger and then dissolved into another kind of tears. Very sad tears.
I have often thought that when the tears start, we have floods. I wonder if this is going to begin.
Julia took a long time to calm down, then ate a healthy bowl of rice and some tuna fish, and then we went shopping for Daddy's jacket.
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vid and Julia, Seems the only way I can keep up with the blog is to read many weeks at a time. Wow!!! What a lot seems to have been happening, and I am sure the gluten free diet, while excellent, is fostering some of the changes.
The problem seems to be that progress is slow, and also goes ahead then backwards at times. I remember this when I worked with Intellectually challenged children in the late 70's, and it can be really frustrating.
You have taken this challenge on in your family, and you can't detach emotionally. You will always be Julia's mum and dad, and you are doing brilliantly. Just hard for you to see this because you are too close to the action.
Have you heard of the book "Engaging Autism" by Stanley Greenspan and Serena Wieder. I am reading it at present as I may be starting as a playgroup leader for children on the ASD spectrum in the near future. I think it has some very good things to say.
So wish I lived closer and could drop in for a chat every now and then.
Love,
Marianne
Marianne:
I think you will make a terrific playgroup leader for the children, as you have such feeling for and with them, which is what Greenspan's work (and the psychoanalytically informed structures from which it is inspired) is all about.
I felt that way when I first encountered Spicy Dragons and Dinosaurs in the last week of August and the first week of September.
Suzanne:
Now about the tears and crying, and the 'reasons' for the crying, or rather the 'emotions' behind it. (Not so easy to separate, especially when you're doing it, for some of the reasons to which Marianne refers and to some unknown factors).
I don't know for sure that when the tears start, there will be floods. For someone who keeps an internal locus of control as strong as Julia's, I don't know that we will suddenly become weepy people. I do think that we may have broken through the "flight/freeze/fight pattern" which mostly dominates the actions and feelings and gone to "tend and befriend". (This last was from Rachel Simmons, who went to the scholars of relational aggression).
(Probably the way I define 'control' would be problematic in terms of theory and therapy).
If I could make the progress pattern more understandable to normal people ... it's like when you're going through a diet and making the changes. There's a balance between acceptance and change, which you may have talked about before.
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